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This Is Why I Decided to Become a Sex Worker

Wondering why I became a sex worker? Here are the real reasons

When you think of the term "sex worker," what kind of characteristics come to mind? Most people envision a stereotype: Someone who is desperate, who has no other choice. Something must have gone wrong in their life for them to end up doing such a job.

As a society, we attach negativity to sex positivity. This is especially true when it comes to sex workers. When someone meets me for the first time, they are greeted by a petite, upbeat redhead with a positive outlook and a can-do attitude. They meet a well-educated woman with multiple college degrees and a passion for higher education.

When asked to guess what my career of choice is, sex worker is one of the last things people tend to guess. Once people meet me and realize I’m college-educated and not really any stereotype they have of my profession, they often ask me why on earth I chose to become a sex worker.

First of all, no, I’m not going to steal your husband. In fact, I want to make what the two of you have become even better. And no, I’m not going to violate your consent. As a professional, I’m not going to pressure either one of you into activities that make you uncomfortable. You set the boundaries and describe what you’ve always wanted to explore, and I create an experience from there. With that out of the way, let’s focus on what’s really important: how seeing a sex worker can be beneficial to your relationship.