Top, Bottom, or Switch: Where Do You Fit Into BDSM?
To begin, BDSM stands for bondage, discipline, sadism, and masochism, and these components all involve some form of consensual power exchange during sexual activity. Trying new activities in bed isn’t just fun; it’s good for your mental and physical health. But, understanding whether you’re a top or whether you’re a bottom—in an activity you’ve not tried yet—is intimidating because it doesn’t always correlate with your outside-of-the-bedroom personality. So, if you’re curious about giving bondage a try but unsure where’d you fit into the power dynamics, take the quiz below to find out if you’re a top, bottom, or switch.
Best BDSM Gear
Anyone getting ready for a BDSM session will need roughly three things to make it successful: the right mindset, the right partner, and the right equipment. Getting good quality BDSM gear is truly the best place to start. It can help you set the scene for intense BDSM encounters, which can help you get into the right mindset. Since I’ve used a fair amount of BDSM gear throughout my career, I thought I’d share my favorites, so that you can properly stock your nightstand for extreme fun.
Fun Facts About Foot Fetishes
Every single person on Earth has different turn-ons, and this is a good thing—sexual diversity is necessary for our continued pleasure, in fact. If everyone liked the same thing, not only would the world be a pretty boring place, but we’d all be in pretty heavy competition for the same type of people. For instance, if having vanilla sex with tall blondes (or petite redheads!) and men with strong jawlines was the only kind of sex we all wanted, we’d be having very little sex, except for those who were in hot pursuit. Kinks and sexual deviance make space for more people to have pleasure, and that’s something we can all appreciate. So let’s talk about one of the most common fetishes around: the famed foot fetish.
Handle with Aftercare: The Two Types of Aftercare, and What They Do
Those who are unfamiliar with bondage may think aftercare is another administrative, bureaucratic activity that kinksters engage in, much like negotiation. But, like negotiation, aftercare is not boring; it can be as sexy and fun as you want it to be! It’s not a drag, but one of the more bonding parts of bondage. So, let’s talk about types of aftercare you can provide and why it’s such a crucial part of BDSM (bondage, discipline, sadism, and masochism).
Top Five Reasons Why You Should Try a Threesome
Whoever coined the phrases “two’s company, three’s a crowd,” or “third wheel,” probably didn’t have enough threesomes in his life. But that doesn’t have to be true for you. There are so many reasons why having a threesome is a bucket list item for many people around the world, but we’ll just talk about the top five why you should have your first threesome at the Chicken Ranch.
Why Everyone Needs Intimacy—and How to Find It
There are so many stereotypes that our culture just won’t let go of—and one of the most harmful is that masculine men don’t need close relationships. It’s old fashioned and destructive, yet it controls the lives and diminishes the happiness of so many men. The idea that you’re less vulnerable the less intimate you are is just not accurate. Science bears out time and time again that social isolation is dangerous for your health, and having relationships—close relationships—is the key to a long life. Though some might think it’s manlier to fear intimacy, the truly hardcore thing to do is to face that fear, and seek vulnerability even if it is challenging. So, let’s talk about what it looks like when you lack intimacy, and how to create a path toward intimate relationships in the future.
Alice's Secrets for a Successful Massage
If there’s one thing that everyone in the world can agree on, it’s that we love a good massage. It might be the only thing that just about every single person enjoys. After all, what’s not to love? The warm, intimate touch of your partner’s fingers? The overwhelming, full-body relaxation and release of muscle tension? Any way you look at it, massages are one of the best forms of self-care (or partner care!) you can find.
Exploring Erotic Massage
Erotic massage combines two of my very favorite things: sexual pleasure and relaxation. Let’s discuss the different types of erotic massage and some tips for giving them a try from the comfort of your own home.
Healing Sexually From a Divorce
When you get a divorce, you need time to heal. You’re grieving the death of a relationship, of a vision you had for your life, and of an identity you held as a spouse. You must take time to remember who you were before the marriage before moving on to who you want to be, now that you are single again. Sex work can make this process a bit easier and, dare I say, fun. So, don’t feel like you have to go through this alone, when I can partner with you to ease the loneliness and kick start your sexual healing.
Top 5 Emerging Sex Trends in 2022
Changing the calendar didn't just signify the end of a year—it signifies the start of something new. Just like many times in the past (think about the roaring 20s), tradition was left behind and modernity was embraced in an unprecedented way. That means a lot of changes could be underway for sexuality trends. Below are my predictions for the sex trends emerging in 2022 that could change the landscape of sexuality as we know it.