Communication is critical when engaging in oral sex. Most often, oral sex involves two people—one giving and the other receiving. The giver will probably have a little trouble communicating, with their, ahem, mouth being pretty busy. But this is an excellent time for the receiver to speak up about what feels good, what they want more of, and how they’re feeling. Practice giving enthusiastic consent, especially if the language of consent is a little bit new to you. It can help you get used to the sound of your voice during sex, which can be a turn-on for both you and your partner.
Don’t forget to give someone a heads up before you climax, especially if you have a penis. It’s just proper blowjob etiquette. It’s also an ideal way to communicate even if you don’t have a penis. It can help your partner know what feels the best to you and what to do to get you across the finish line. No one is a mind reader, so speaking up during oral sex is essential.
It’s Never Boring
If you think oral sex is always the same, you couldn’t be more wrong. There are so many techniques and methods that you never have to do it the same way. First of all, it’s a good idea to take it slow and not rush through it. People of any gender love teasing, and ramping up the pressure and speed is a good way to ensure the process doesn’t get monotonous for either of you.
For a little variation, don’t hesitate to use your hands on people of any gender—if your partner is into it. Ask if they’d like to be fingered, or you could use your hands to stroke them, too. Teeth, lips, and tongues can all be used to varying degrees, too, depending on your partner’s sensitivity and proclivities. Definitely ask first, especially about the use of teeth, and then tread lightly.
There are a million different positions to try, too. If you want to deep throat someone, it’s easier to do if they are standing and you are kneeling or sitting. Lying on your back while they are over you can somewhat limit the length of the throat. Play around with what feels most comfortable for you, and use sex furniture to make it even more comfortable.
Vary lubes and textured condoms to make it even more interesting and enjoyable. As a bonus, they can make oral sex safer for both of you when used correctly. You can also play with different temperatures by taking a drink of something icy or warm before orally pleasuring your partner. The sky is the limit, so use your imagination.
It in SO Intimate
Oral sex can be every bit as intimate as other types of sex if you put your mind to it. Unfortunately, a significant number of people consider oral sex a precursor to sex. But oral sex is so much fun, it can stand on its own and is the main event for many people. Eye contact is key here, as it can make the encounter feel a touch romantic and sensual. You can also cradle your partner’s hips to pull them closer to you if the mood feels right.
Oral Sex Is Good for Your Health—Both Mental and Physical
Oral sex is good for your mental health, of course. Having sex and regular orgasms is one of the best things you can do for your mental health. You get all those wonderful endorphins that increase your feelings of well-being, which can help reduce your perception of pain and improve the quality of your sleep. It can alleviate the effects of depression and stress.
Oral sex—and sex of any kind, really—is like one big care package for your mental health, which is very closely related to your physical health. But the more surprising thing is that oral sex is actually good for your physical health, too, especially when it ends in an orgasm. Some research has shown that it can boost your immunity and even extend your life. So, if you needed one more reason to incorporate more oral sex into your life, there it is.
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