What Erotic Massage Is
Sometimes people think that all massages are erotic massages, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. If you go to a massage therapist for a Swedish, sports, or deep-tissue massage, that massage aims to help you relax and relieve muscle pain and tension. The goal of an erotic massage is not only to relax you but to arouse you. Most massage therapists are not allowed to give these types of massage, and they’ll be pretty annoyed if you ask them to focus on your genitals, and you probably won’t be invited back.
Erotic massage is the true full-body massage. No parts are left behind during this type of massage! It can involve sex, or you can use massage of specific body parts to reach orgasm!
Lingam massage is a type of erotic massage perfect for penis owners. Lingam massage focuses on the penis and can be highly relaxing and arousing at the same time. You only need two things for a lingam massage: your clean hands and some body-safe lube. However, it’s quite different from a hand job due to the techniques you use. For a lingam massage, you will start slowly and let the arousal build naturally rather than using the typical jerk-off motion. That’s much harsher and faster than anything you do during a lingam massage.
When you begin to touch the penis, use different motions than you typically would during a handjob. For instance, drum your fingers gently along the underside, or use a swirling, circular motion (with plenty of lube) along the shaft. Focus on rubbing your partner to enhance sensation rather than reverting into old habits and rushing toward orgasm. This will help make the experience unique and memorable. If you’re partner’s game, don’t neglect the balls, which may enjoy an extremely gentle massaging touch.
Yoni massage is a massage dedicated to pleasing your vulva. Since it takes vulva-owners a bit more time to reach peak arousal, you’ll want to ensure you have plenty of time to do a full yoni massage—at least thirty minutes. Start by warming up your partner’s body by gently rubbing the legs, inner thighs, hips, and stomach with light, sensual strokes. Tease your partner’s body before diving into the most sensitive parts so that you don’t overwhelm them with sensation.
Then, when you begin touching the yoni, start on the outside with the outer lips. Use gentle pressure to rub the lips in small circles. Then you can start to massage the skin around the clitoris before eventually stroking the clitoris or inserting your fingers to massage the G spot.
Timing is everything with yoni massage, so when in doubt, slow down and draw it out! Having neatly trimmed and recently filed nails is also a good idea to avoid any micro-tears or discomfort during the massage.
Breast massage is a kind of massage that feels good to people of any gender. Instead of focusing on lymphatic drainage, an erotic breast massage titillates someone by touching around the outside and eventually making their way toward the nipples. This is also a great lead-in to other types of erotic massage.
Nuru massage is a super hot way to massage someone where, instead of your hands, you use your body to rub someone else. You use a ton of massage oil so that both of your bodies are incredibly slippery, and then you use your body weight to rub up against them. When done correctly, this type of massage is extraordinarily sexy.
Erotic Massage Tips
Something to keep in mind when you’re giving an erotic massage: don’t necessarily use massage oil when you’re massaging someone’s genitals. It’s always safer to use lubricant, as some massage oils have peppermint or other scents that can burn your genitals, which is the opposite of relaxing.
Next, you can both be naked during an erotic massage. It’s supposed to be sexy, after all! So, don’t risk staining your clothes with massage oil and just give the massage in the nude if your partner is comfortable with it.
No matter what type of erotic massage you’re giving, take your time. Building anticipation makes sex hotter, but it takes time. Slow things down to a leisurely pace so that your partner has a chance to look forward to all the hot stuff coming their way. Don’t start a lingam massage by grabbing your partner’s phallus. Spend at least a few minutes rubbing their back, shoulders, arms, and legs so that by the time you get to their genitals, they are dying to have you touch them.
Pay close attention to signals of discomfort, as well. If your partner balls up their fists, you may be using too much pressure on a specific area. If they get goosebumps, offer them a blanket. Keeping their comfort at the forefront of your mind can elevate the experience of an erotic massage to a new level.