Become Fluent in Your Partner’s Love Language
Have you ever read about the five different love languages? Briefly put, the theory is that people experience love in different ways. You may give your love in a different way than you receive it, and so may your partner, family, and friends. If you understand someone’s love language, it becomes a lot easier to express how meaningful they are to you in a way they can easily receive. The love languages are acts of service, words of affirmation, gifts, quality time, and physical touch. During the holiday season, we can learn a lot about gift-giving from those with that love language.
Giving a gift should never be about the price tag. A present is an opportunity to show someone that you’re paying attention to them, how significantly you value them, and how you’ve listened intently to them throughout the year. So, forget the fancy, impersonal gifts and start thinking about the last time you spent quality time together.
Shopping for the Perfect Gift
If you brave the mall, rather than buying what you think the other person would like, pretend to be the gift-receiver while you shop. This is the time to really get inside their head. Would they stop and look at anything in particular? What would they pick up? Think back through past gift-giving times, if you’ve had them together. Which gifts truly moved them, and which did they seem graciously appreciative of but not stoked about? What makes them laugh? Are there colors that make their eyes shine? What they read, listen to, watch, or create? Have they taken up any new interests? Older interests may have already been fully explored, gift-wise.
Ask yourself what kind of gift would be most appreciated: something that comforts, something that helps, something creative, or something personal. For those who treasure gifts of comfort, blankets, photos, or a romantic evening out are often perfect options. Or, for your friends and family who are of a practical nature, home utility items, a prepaid housekeeping service, or a back massage would likely be well received. Artisans and designers may be grateful if you show up with a gift of artsy and tasteful home decor, a wine and paint experience, or a beautiful new sex toy—some of them are basically works of art, after all. Get those who value thoughtfulness and intimacy a very personalized gift, like a pet portrait, a framed picture of the two of you doing something fun this year, monogrammed luggage, or a funny souvenir of an inside joke you have together.
Give the Gift That Keeps on Giving: A Memory
Stuff doesn’t last forever, but a treasured memory will. And research shows that money spent on experiences makes us the happiest, so it makes sense that experiences are the very best gifts. And there’s no experience quite like treating yourself and your significant other to sexy time at the brothel. It’s the ideal gift for someone who has it all.
Remember, threesomes don’t make great surprises. But, if you and your partner have had conversations about wanting to try a threesome, a threesome experience with me can be the ultimate gift!
If one partner’s love language is physical touch, and the other’s is gift-receiving, why not learn how to give an erotic massage with me as your teacher? I’ve been trained as a massage therapist and can offer you both the tools to give sexy, relaxing massages to each other for the rest of your lives. If there’s another topic you’d like to be educated on, I provide all kinds of sex education, from how to give the perfect blowjob to better sex positions to try with lady partners to just about any experience you can dream up.
What about a sex vacation? They’re perfect for any occasion, but can be especially romantic during the holidays. One of my favorite types of getaways is taking a couple (or a single!) for a ski weekend in Tahoe. I’ll be your travel guide, and we can get our fill of skiing—as well as pleasure—while we’re taking in the sights.